“This summer I was in Chicago for a couple months for school.  My grandmother, who lived in Iowa, passed away while I was there and I was so thankful I was close enough to attend all the services and be there for my family.  It’s the mid-west…and well….my family is pretty religious.  When I was in highschool I discovered how toxic religion was and could be and continued my life as an athiest (something my family whole heartedly disagrees with and has severed my relationship with my father who I adored as a child).  Anyway…my Grandmother’s children organized her funeral and everything and had the services at their church.  I already expected some form of preaching to occur, and it did of course because they just can’t refrain from going on with their own agenda…but what I didn’t expect the pastor to say was ‘If you have not found found Jesus, you have disappointed Evelyn…’.  Excuse me?!
 
Once he declared that, I wanted to tune out and started cursing the man in my head.  What right does he have to delcare that I have disappointed my deceased grandmother?  They don’t get it do they?  While on their own personal agenda, they could have offended many (probably only me in this case).  I’m there to celebrate my grandmothers life and look back on all my fond memories of her.  His agenda pushed me further away from their ‘truth’ than I already was.”

(Thanks April)